At
times it feels too soon to start this whole thing over again and yet at others
it feels like it can’t come soon enough.
We were talking on the
plane ride home from Ethiopia about how excited we were to do it all
again. Crazy we know, but when you love
someone that much your reasoning skills are a bit impaired. Thankfully, as always, God gave us the sense
to let Bona get settled before we started the whole process again. Well, he is settled now! More than settled, this kid is amazing. And so even in the midst of complete chaos
(selling house and unsure where we will live next), Here we go again, and we
honestly couldn't be any more thrilled.
With this process starting all over again we have been
reminded of what an amazing support system we have. It was that support that got us through
Bona’s adoption with grace, humility, and patience. So it is no surprise to us that people are
already coming along side us as we are in the beginning stages of adoption
#2. And many people have had questions
about how this time will be the same or different from Bona’s process. So we thought we could compile a list for you. Of course we will never know all the things
until this adoption is complete, but below is a quick look at what we know now.
Things that are the same:
· We are OVER THE MOON excited to bring a child
into our family!!
· We know without a shadow of a doubt that God has
already chosen our child even though we don’t yet know who he is.
· We would like to adopt another little boy! Although God may have a little girl in mind,
and that would be perfectly ok as well.
· We still have no idea if we can have biological
children because we have not felt called to that and may never feel called to
add to our family that way.
· We are still just two people (plus one) seeking
to do God’s will in our lives. We are not
some amazing altruistic family who deserves praise or admiration. We just feel God’s nudge to adopt again and
so we are letting him lead the way. (see here
to read more about this.)
· We still have lots of paperwork and bureaucracy
(both US and Ethiopian) to get through before we can bring our child home. But as we realized last time God works out
all those details. So it won’t change
the frustrations but we do have more peace about all of these things working
out.
· We plan to stay in Ethiopia again for an
extended period of time. We were there a
total of 9 weeks with Bona’s adoption.
And it was amazing! We can’t wait
to go back and see our friends. (see here
to read more about our first time staying in Ethiopia)
· We are going to need a lot of support and love
along the way. Even though we have a
better idea of what is coming, it is still an emotional roller coaster We will need prayers and shoulders to cry on,
and friends to celebrate with in the moments of joy. (see here
to read more about how our friends and family helped us through)
· We still have no idea about the timing. But again we have peace that the child
waiting for us is already picked out and that God will work out the details. It doesn't mean that we don’t want our child
home right now, because we do! It also doesn't mean that we won’t be frustrated by the timing, because every day we aren't with our son is another he is missing out on complete attention and love
from his forever family. And it is
another day Bona has to go without being able to love on and get to know his
big brother. We will find joy in this
time of waiting, but we may not always be happy about not having our son with
us.
Things that are different:
· We are using a different adoption agency. Bona’s adoption was through Holt.
This adoption will be through Bethany Christian Services. If you are
interested in adoption and would like to know why we switched we would be happy
to talk to you more about the details.
· Our next child will likely be older. So Bona man will have a big brother. We are
asking that Big Bro be no more than 3 years older than Bona so around 4 years
of age. We are currently trying to teach him to say “Big Brother” see the video.
· We have someone to occupy our time while we
wait! Having Bona certainly changes the
dynamic. As I mentioned before we still
want to have our son home as soon as possible but having Bona will remind us
why the wait is worth it!
· We are open to more medical issues. Before Bona we didn't know if we could handle
certain medical problems. But now that
we have a child that we love more than life itself we realize that would not
change if he had a medical issue! We
won’t go into the details too much, but if it comes up we will pray pray pray
for God to guide us and show us which issues we can handle and which issues
would be better cared for by another family.
· This time around we also know a lot more about
Ethiopia and the conditions our son will most likely be living in, which give
us more peace of mind. Although they
were not ideal (no orphanage is) they were pretty great considering. Bona got lots of love and attention, was well
fed and well cared for and we pray that our next child is receiving the same. In fact every time we pray we ask God for
someone to give our child a hug or kiss.
We will never know if that is happening but God can do many things so it
certainly doesn't hurt to ask!
· Big Bro will not come from the same care center
that Bona was living. (Unless God has some crazy plan in store)
· And lastly the biggest difference is that we
have a completely different perspective on life. We had NO IDEA how madly and deeply we would
love our son. Of course we assumed a lot
of things but we really had no idea! It
is that love and that desire to share it with another child that is driving
this adoption.
So whether you are reading our blog for the first time or
you have been following our journey from the beginning, we pray that you read
this with an open heart. We are sharing
and have shared our journey because it is evidence of God’s amazing power and
blessing. We are ordinary but our story
is extraordinary because of what God has orchestrated. That the logistics of adoption are worked out
is a miracle in and of itself. Not to
mention a hundred other stories we could tell of God’s amazing hand at
work. We have never felt the love of God
has clearly and profoundly as we did through the process of adoption and that
is why we share! We can’t keep something
like that to ourselves. And most
importantly the reason we share our experience on this blog is because we hope
it will inspire others to consider adoption for their families as well. It doesn’t matter how old, young, wealthy,
poor, married not married, God calls us to care for the orphans, JAMES 1:27. We
hope that our story will spark something in you to pray and ask God how he can
use you to care for those less fortunate.
Just prepare yourself because he might ask for something pretty big in
return. And if you answer we promise you
will never regret your choice to follow hard after the Lord! So here we go again! And we pray that some of you may consider
starting the same journey yourself!
